“‘Me Time’ is a complete crock of bull.
哦，是的，互联网的人，今天我们将谈论“我的时间”，以及为什么这是地球上最愚蠢的事情。It’s not so much the term ‘me time’ that gets under my skin, but the thought that merely giving a mother an hour or two to ignore her problems only to come home to the same amount, if not MORE, of shizz for her to do is asinine. You want to help a mom be less overwhelmed and happier? Do some of her dishes/laundry/cooking/child-wrangling. Every. Dang. Day.
Basic human care is not a luxury, darnit!
When did going to the dentist become a break? When did getting a haircut become anything other than a necessity? Why are my runs considered anything but required for my overall health? Why is ANYTHING centered on the mom considered ‘me time’ for her? Sorry y’all, but taking a dump shouldn’t be considered a break if my kids don’t barge in. It’s freakin’ ridiculous.
No one thanks me for watching my kids while my husband runs errands, so why the heck is it considered ‘me time’ when I go grocery shopping? This has to stop. All of it has to stop.
Why do moms experience burnout?
您的意思是，除了我们的“休息”仅由撒尿组成的事实之外？因为我们做到了。我的意思不是以超人的方式，我的意思是以奴隶的方式。我们。做。一切。下周二晚上吃晚饭什么？狗得到了他的心虫药吗？谁洗衣服？煮晚餐？ And in a lot of cases, worked all day? That’s right. The mom.
Sure, there are a lot of dad’s out there that do a lot too, but they don’t have this weird concept of ‘me time’ floating around. BECAUSE THEY DON’T NEED IT. I have to make sure everything is in order before I poop or take a shower. I have to secure childcare before I run an errand or drag the tiny monsters with me. Men typically don’t have to do that. They just… do their stuff.
Won’t ‘me time’ help then?!
不。它不会帮助。它所做的是把所有的年代hizz we were going to do in that 1-2 hours and shoves it out. Typically more stuff piles on top of it too while we’re being ‘pampered’ (and simultaneously thinking about all the shizz we have to do). Unless someone is literally doing all the stuff we would be doing at that point in time, ‘me time’ is pretty darn useless. Maybe even harmful. And yet, we’re supposed to be grateful for the opportunity! We’re supposed to come back refreshed! I call bs. We don’t need ‘me time,’ we need HELP.
We need some recognition for the insane amount of work we do day in and day out. We need sleep, good food that we didn’t cook, help with chores, and help with the mental load. Heck, we need ACKNOWLEDGMENT of the mental load! Moms are people too, darnit! Not Employees! We need a break that doesn’t come with a massive backlog of work. Better yet, we need LESS of a load overall.A lot of us moms are like boiling pots of water. This oncept of ‘me time’ tilts the lid in a vain attempt to keep us from boiling over, but no one ever thinks to turn down the heat. Instead, life keeps turning the heat up and up and up. We boil faster and faster. Someone tilts the lid by so very graciously giving us ‘me time’ and we’re supposed to be grateful … but all that really did was release just a tiny bit of the pressure. The pot is still at a raging boil. We need help to turn down the heat. If the heat never lessens, things will NEVER get better regardless of the many times the lid gets lifted.
Well, let’s talk about what that help we need looks like, shall we?
This one is a no brainer. We need someone to take care of our kids from time to time for a variety of reasons. I am 100% convinced that humans are not made to parent alone. We NEED the tribe, the community, and to share the responsibility. Without shame. Basically, we need respite care. Otherwise, we have massive epidemics of mental illness in moms. Gee, I wonder why?
Less judgment from other moms.
For real. Knock that shizz off. We’re not doing each other any favors by being judgy. If we don’t support each other how the heck do we stand a chance with society as a whole?
More realistic division of labor in the home.
More flexibility in the workplace WITHOUT punishment.
Teach the boys early.
Is that all?
Nope. Not even close. But this is not a dissertation. Honestly, I could go on forever, but this is a start. Basically, treat us with the respect and compassion we deserve. Thank us for all the shizz we do. Take on some of the shizz yourself. Stop judging us because we aren’t freakin’ perfect. Us moms are the most badass people on the planet. And it’s about time we are acknowledged for the insane amount of work we do day in and day out and HELPED.
Don’t tell me to get some ‘me time’ to feel better. A pat on the head and a pedicure is like me offering a dude a penny for a day’s work. It’s INSULTING. Get with the program people, an hour ‘off’ doesn’t fix the epidemic of overworked, over-criticized, and underappreciated moms. The only thing that will fix that is HELP.
Rant over. Rebekah OUT.”
这个故事提交给beplay网络一直不畅作者：丽贝卡·斯文森（Rebekah Svensson），博客作者尴尬而健康，，，，of Plainfield, Illinois. You can follow her journey onFacebookandInstagram。提交自己的故事hereand be sure tosubscribeto our free email newsletter for our best stories.
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