“When I tell other mamas that I have 5 kids who were all out of diapers by walking, and that I haven’t had to potty train any of them, one of two things happen: 1) they suddenly announce the need to go home to bathe their llama or 2) they want to know how I managed to do it.
All you mamas and daddies who want to know how I avoided potty training and most poopy diapers, listen up! It was easier than you might surmise, and there are variations on what I did that YOU, yes you, could do, too. We will get to that.
Let me start by saying it wasn’t exactly完全地easy. Along the way I’ve faced cold shoulders and criticisms, and most painfully have been shunned by many a mom or dad who misinterprets what I’ve done as an implied personal criticism against他们还有他们haven’tdone. Locally, it’s been a somewhat lonely journey, made bearable only by my choice to create a ginormous online community of others who follow the same start-super-early path as I have. They have saved me. 100,000s of them.
So here it is…what we’ve done.
我们做了什么instead ofpotty training
好吧，所以我们用五个孩子所做的就是“称为”elimination communication。”我们称其为简称EC，但也称为无尿布，婴儿便盆训练，早期便盆训练，天然婴儿卫生和我最喜欢的80年代标题，Trickle Treat。
We start EC right at birth (although one can technically start anytime between birth and 18 months) because it’s easier to start early, it connects us more completely, and they signal more clearly (newborns prefer good hygiene more strongly). Andwhy would I want my babies to use the diaper as a toilet when their instincts clearly say otherwise?For me, knowing what I know about infant biology and psychology, that would feel neglectful. And did I mention I hate cleaning up poopy diapers?
因此，新生婴儿对EC非常容易。当他们醒来时，我们会在护理前提供便盆，通常会捕捉小便或便便，或两者兼而有之。（尝试！）与新生儿一起做EC，完全帮助我们在更深层次的水平上学习婴儿informs usabout our babies by filling in the mysterious other 5th of the baby-caring pie: eating, sleeping, loving, keeping-warm, andpottying。By getting familiar with both the ins and the outs, our babies cry less often, and we are way less confused as a new mom or dad. More confident. More bonded.
How I heard about elimination communication
早在2005年,一个朋友的朋友在Facebook that they didn’t use diapers – they simply held their baby over the toilet or the ground, from birth, and avoided poopy diapers.
I am in! Where do I sign up? I don’t even have a baby yet! Or a steady boyfriend!I exclaimed.
And 4 years later, when I discovered I was pregnant, I immediately bought a book that explained this phenomenon that could save me from All. The. Mess. It just felt right. But in the nauseated pregnant reality I was in, I had a really hard time wrapping my head around how to do EC when my baby was born at home in 2010.What exactly do Ido？（这就是为什么他5个月大的时候开始写我受欢迎的EC书 - 这是非常视觉和逐步的！）
On the day of his birth, my son started wriggling and bearing down. I was handed a small potty and held him over it as I’d seen it done in the book. He did that first nasty tarry poop in the potty, and I can assure you that Ineverlooked back from that day forward. This was the best thing ever! I dedicated myself to learning my baby in this way, and am certain I became a better mom because of it. I was engaged, connected, and felt like I at least knew how to dotwo thingswith my new baby: nurse and potty! For me, that built lots of confidence.
Then over the course of 8 years I had four more babies. Every one of them has been started at birth. When people ask me why I start at birth, I answer:
‘It’s way easier than changing endless blowout diapers. And WHY would I want to sit there and wait for my baby to poop in her diaper, only to clean it up later? My babies LOVE EC.’
The many benefits we’ve experienced by pottying our tiny babies
Doing EC keeps our babies way more comfortable (we all want that, right?), less fussy, way less ‘colicky,’ and more healthy – we get an earlier heads-up when baby is becoming ill or about to push out a tooth, and we completely avoid diaper rash, medical constipation, endless accidents, unnecessary tantrums, erratic behavior, and bedwetting. (Many of these things are rampant in children whose toilet learning does not begin until age 2 or later – I have a blog post about the science behind all this on my website if you’re curious or doubtful.)
We have saved an estimated $10,000 in diaper costs, kept literally TONS of diapers out of the landfill, and have raised our babies without the disgusting task (and smell) of endless poopy diapers and without ever buying a diaper genie. We never had more than one child in diapers (they average 18 months apart),尿布中的一个很少在其中。新生婴儿出生时，我们的大孩子没有在洗手间，因为他们帮助我们便盆新生的兄弟姐妹。这就是我们家人的所作所为。
But the biggest benefit? We didn’t have to endure traumatic potty training with 2 and 3-year-olds who are in the ‘No!’ – why would anyone sentence parents to do THAT?
Two short-cuts that made ECeasierto start, and keep up with
I have something for those of you going, ‘but Andrea, you were a stay-at-home mom and I just don’t have time for that, I have to go back to work, what’s the point, I’ll just keep changing diapers, I’ll let my child lead the processwhen he’s ready。’
新闻快报！我拥有3家企业，有5个1-9岁的孩子（目前有3个孩子在学前班），并从1890年起拥有一间农舍（Hello：无休止的改建）。我每天工作4个小时，在家里，在所有这些中间我都在母乳喂养。剩下的一天，我父母，用餐计划，做饭，购物，擦去溢出和眼泪，并挤进我的爱好和运动中。如果我可以适应我的生活，那么您也可以。But here are some extra-credit shortcuts based on what has worked for us busy folk – because I get it. Even having ONE child is HARD!
First，，，，we do not do EC 24/7 for all pees –we do it part-time, with a full-time awareness。因此，兼职您可能意味着只撒尿，只能得到便便（通常更容易：本能！），只能做唤醒小便……类似的东西。我认为我们是“全泰夫人”，因为我们总是将尿布视为后备，而不是厕所，从来没有厕所！
Which leads me to:Second，，，，we use a diaper when doing EC – until the babies start to walk。具有讽刺意味的是，使用尿布使我们的EC对我们更具可持续性。我们的压力较小。通过使用“备份”，我们的婴儿没有学到wrongbehavior of just peeing wherever, whenever – which is the same exact thing as wearing a diaper, when you think about it! We use a biodegradable diaper backup byDyper…wish they would have been around for our first four babies – and while we also use cloth diapers in the beginning, we rely heavily on Tiny Trainers, TinyUps, and Tiny Undies for our diaper-free time (I make and sell these and small potties over attinyundies.com）。没有尿布的任何时候都很棒，但是要这样做负责任using clothing or a diaper back-up if you’re not trying to learn baby’s timing during a naked sesh.
我们如何进行EC - 4个简单的捕获，观察，位置
Because I teach about EC for a living, I have tips! You can start EC with a 0-18 month baby by checking outmy free Easy Start Guide。It will introduce you to the 4 Easy Catches: wake-ups, poops, diaper changes, and transitions times. These are the go-to times to potty your baby and find some success and rhythm to this mysterious practice (which used to be what ALL parents did, for all of human history).
The Easy Start Guide also covers observation and the most common baby signals that say, ‘Hey, I need to pee!’ It also shows you a few examples of EC positions, which shorten the canals for easier pooping and peeing.
Why I take my kids out of diapers when they start walking
Taking a child out of diapers when they start to walk is what our great-grandparents and some of our grandparents did. Using a diaper as a ‘back-up,’ not a full-time toilet, is what all of our ancestors did at one point or another. I mean, what did people do before diapers? It just makes sense. And it’s easier than it sounds. When they start to walk, babies can totally own the process. You just start teaching them the ropes and hand off the baton at the time. Oh, the pride they feel! Montessori deemed the sensitive period for potty learning to be 12-18 months. Once it’s achieved during the frame, babies are freed up to learn the next thing, and the next. And it normalizes their behavior. My kids are independent, confident, and pretty good at self control.
If you wanna start EC with your 0-18 month baby, grabmy free Easy Start Guide。它将向您展示绳索和帮你泡toe in to a new paradigm of baby-raising.
If you wanna start potty training your 18+ month baby (as early as 16 months), grabmy 3-day Potty Training Primer。它会让您进入正确的顶空，以解决这个怪物。
And if you need small cotton underwear and cotton-core training pants, including undies that teach your kiddo how to self-dress (!), or possibly a newborn or small toddler potty, I’ve got those stocked up over at my sister site,tinyundies.com。Because: gear! It can make it easier to go against the cultural grain, for sure.
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading about our journey. Please leave a comment with any thoughtful questions you might have for me!”
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