“I have been apprehensive to share but think it is important for those of us with daughters. This week我带我13岁的女儿抚摸她的身体, as we entered the examination room, I was excited to see how tall Riley would be. This year she has grown a ton! The coach in me has loved seeing her strength and size finally come along and the mom in me has loved watching this beautiful young girl begin to become a young woman.
Enter first physician’s assistant to take her vitals. Height, weight and blood pressure. She jots them down and leaves the room. Enter Nurse Practitioner. She begins by asking many questions – what’s your bedtime? How much exercise do you get? Are you involved in sports? Do you get enough dairy in your diet? She asks her multiple times – anything else going on I should know about?
莱利很友好，诚实，公开地回答。她解释说，她将很快参加两项运动 - 秋季垒球和冬天的篮球。她告诉她她在晚上10:30左右上床睡觉。并且没有睡觉的麻烦。护士从业者对体育参与有所了解，有点暗示她将很难与学校保持平衡，但莱利似乎并没有受到影响。
She then asks her, ‘How was school for you this last year?’
莱利再次完全诚实地说：‘实际上对我来说非常困难。有很多戏剧，我挣扎着。’
护士从业人员说，这是七年级的典型特征，并继续前进。她询问要获得自己的月经以及是否规律。赖利（Riley）解释说她已经得到了，但尚未定期。
然后护士低头看着她的薪酬uter, then back up at Riley’s face and says to my 13-year-old daughter, ‘Tell me Riley, HOW CAN YOU EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS WEIGHT YOU’VE GAINED?’
My daughter is speechless, and her eyes begin to glass over. I am speechless, and the Nurse Practitioner goes on to explain to her that given what her previous weight was last year, the numbers just don’t correlate with her current height. Has she been eating junk food or has her activity level changed? I LOST MY MIND. I had a literal, physical reaction.
我举起手说‘停止！您需要停止与我女儿谈论她的体重。她13岁，她很坚强。她很健康，她很完美。您需要继续前进！’护士从业人员似乎对我的反应感到惊讶，但没有说太多。她继续考试。当她完成时，她要求我跟随她，因为她有一个问题要问我。我跟随她进入我女儿耳边的毗邻房间，她问我为什么对她有这种反应。
I explained in no uncertain terms that she was out of line in the way she dealt with my daughter. Our girls need to be empowered and supported and celebrated. They already have to compare themselves to the ridiculous social media bullsh*t standards. They are flooded with images of perfection via TV, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. Their whole freaking lives have a filter on them! I hammer home the importance of eating healthy, exercising and of course sports, because we are sporty people but my God! Kids eat junk food! Kids sit around watching Netflix! Kids get heavier, lighter, taller, wider! IT’S NORMAL! Our young ladies need a break! If my child has a problem or is OVERWEIGHT, than a doctor needs to talk to ME – not my daughter.
这位护士从业者实际上是通过说她告诉孩子们的，因为他们控制了食物和运动，因此继续为自己辩护。我的回答 - “最后我检查了夫人，我做杂货店购物”，以及为孩子们准备的饭菜和课外时间安排。她13岁！她回答说，有些孩子有自己的“零用钱”，并将其用于垃圾。WTF。因此 - 我们离开了办公室，不会回来。我分享这一点的原因是因为它很危险。当我们离开时，莱利的回应是：“妈妈，这就是为什么孩子患有厌食症或觉得自己想伤害自己的原因。”她是正确的！
Here’s what you COULD have said to my daughter and all of the beautiful young ladies you impact:
‘Hey kiddo. Let me tell you how exciting this time of your life is. I see you have started to grow into being a strong young woman and that is awesome! Know that some girls gain weight, some lose weight, some struggle with acne, some feel insecure, but remember this – YOU ARE PERFECT just the way you are. As you mature, you will be responsible for more things that pertain to your body – hygiene, activity, menstruation, exercise and healthy eating. This is just the beginning of a long, confusing, sometimes scary road to becoming a woman, but it is worth it!’”
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