“Imagine being in your FINAL stretch of grad school and while chatting with your classmates, you get a call.
我t’s your husband.
他很少在一天中间打电话，所以你走开了。
另一方面，您注意到他通常自我保证，并削减追逐声音，这有点紧张，并兴奋不已。
他有消息。但这并不是您对听到的兴奋的消息。
他的工作使他在佛罗里达州进行了为期三个月的项目……离家5小时。
Your heart sinks. You ask him if he said yes. He told them he’d think about it but… you can tell he’s going to say yes… actually he WANTS to say yes.
You ask, ‘Well, what about graduation?’ And ‘How am I supposed to finish the semester without you?’ And ‘Did you ask when it starts?’
He says he’ll call you back.
Now imagine 20 minutes before that was the last time you felt happy and safe at the same time.
我从来没有对这次旅行感到正确。我争论并大惊小怪，因为它似乎不正确。
他离开的那一天，我记得我教堂里有人看着我说：“别担心，他不会作弊！”
Two weeks later I came face to face with the harrowing realization that not only did he cheat, but it was with someone I knew.
事实上，我们的家人很亲密。这是史诗般的背叛。
人们经常问我如何找到。我最简单的答案是圣灵。在两周的时间内，我们的电话对话变得越来越短，到达他的越来越困难，当我们讲话时，他似乎很遥远……就像他想在其他地方一样。
即使在他离开之前，我们的亲密关系也减少了，似乎在我们应该越来越近的时候，我们实际上正在成长。
然而,在days of built up frustration and his first visit home leaving me confused and devastated, I heard the voice of the Holy Spirit whisper to me, telling me to check his email. I had never done this before, but due to the level of openness in our relationship, I had the information. It did not take long for me to find what was only the beginning of the betrayal I was to face.
After a grueling conversation and an emergency flight back home, he confessed to an emotional affair. I was devastated, hurt, and angry, but I wanted so desperately to see my family whole again. So, I packed my things and moved to Florida for the remainder of my semester, only returning briefly for graduation. Soon after my arrival, however, he began to grow resentful of my presence, but my faith in God’s ability to shift our circumstance was deeply rooted, so I stayed.
我began each morning in prayer, worship, and often, tears. I was desperate for the direction and strength to endure whatever hardship may come with the day emotionally, mentally, and relationally.
我有我信任的朋友告诉我最深切的担忧和痛苦，他们忠实地倾听和祈祷并为我祈祷。
We began individual and couple’s counseling and after two months there seemed to be some good changes in our interactions. We seemed to finally be turning a corner.
One night, after a considerably positive counseling session, I went to cook dinner as we discussed what Netflix would entertain us with while we ate. Out of nowhere, he walked over to me and grabbed my hands. He looked at me in my eyes and said every beautiful and kind thing I’d hoped for months to hear. I inquired where this sudden conviction came from and he said, ‘Because I’ve been lying to you… there’s more.’
在那一刻，时间静止不动，因为他承认不仅与我认识的人有情感恋情，而且实际上有身体上的接触。
我问他为什么现在告诉我这些信息，他递给我我的电话。她的一个家庭成员发短信给我们俩，让我们知道她错过了她的时期，并关心怀孕。
我was honestly unmoved.
我只是告诉他，如果她怀孕，我不会留下。但是，在这一点上他是仍然不确定他是否想要任何方式。
几天后，我们发现她没有怀孕，但是那时我有些事情破裂了。我开始表现不稳，到了如此绝望的状态，以至于我与高中前任寻求情感支持。
我needed感觉到和考虑。
Soon after, I packed my things and returned home. It didn’t take long before I sought the comfort of the aforementioned high school ex and boundaries were crossed. Though we did not have intercourse, what transpired was enough to make me feel guilty. I informed my husband of my transgression and he stated that we were now ‘even,’ and he no longer felt obligated to work things out. I asked for a separation, to which he agreed. I immediately fell into a severe depression – I didn’t eat, cried incessantly, and only got up from bed when necessary.
His assignment ended and he returned home but the weeks to follow were tense and anxiety-inducing. I got a job and would purposely look for reasons to come home late, and though we were in the same home, we lived two different lives.
他接到了另一个外部任务的电话，在我心中，我知道终于结束了。他搬出去，我们的租约到期，我得到了自己的公寓。
有一天，在工作中，我清楚地听到了上帝的声音说：“你想要什么？”那一刻，我可以分解，因为几个月后从来没有人问过我。我的回答是“和平”，不管这是什么样子。
第二天，他打电话给我，说他正在申请离婚。我感到上帝的安宁在我身上洗了，我知道我已经准备好了。
我had gone on hiatus from blogging on my platform,真正的结婚，，，，because most of it was built around my experiences as a millennial wife. I was not sure if and how I would pick it back up again, but I began to receive new vision for it.
当我经历了离婚的各种痛苦和不适时，我的信仰，支持制度和决心很强大。最终，我发现自己再次笑着享受生活。
我rebranded my platform and after things were finalized, I announced the divorce and relaunched Authentically Wed to be a platform dedicated to helping people become their healthiest and most authentic selves, and creating and sustaining healthy relationships. We now have an amazing leadership team, an active and thriving Facebook community, several successful events under our belts (virtual and physical), products, and more.
我would never wish my journey on my worst enemy, BUT without it I would never have become a bolder, stronger, more faith-filled, and AUTHENTIC version of myself. I have seen triumph after triumph, and I feel beyond blessed. I am excited to see what the future holds and am expectant that only the best lies ahead.”
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“你告诉她工作中的戏剧吗？”我注意到我的丈夫感到不舒服。“有谣言你丈夫正在和一个和我们一起工作的女孩睡觉。”他笑了。
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