“我记得当他走出家里时。这是一个潮湿的,八月的周日下午,一场快速移动的南部雷暴的蒸汽向天空漂移。他的笑容就像挥之不去的雨滴的阳光一样明亮。‘嗨,我是马丁!谢谢你带我和你们一起去教堂!’
我的丈夫杰伊(Jay)和我俩都笑了,当他和安德鲁(Andrew)滑入后排座位时,他欢迎他。当时安德鲁(Andrew)12岁,是我以前的婚姻的儿子。我们和我支持的杰伊(Jay)和我支持的杰伊(Jay)支持我们教堂的周日青年小组计划的短途车程一起聊天。一个共同的朋友邀请马丁参加,但他需要乘车往返教堂。
马丁和他的同卵双胞胎维克多(Victor)15岁。维克多(Victor)决定那天晚上不加入我们,所以第一次只是马丁。在我们的青年活动结束后将他回家后,我们与他分享了我们的电话号码,让他知道他是否需要任何东西,只是发短信或打电话。他热情地笑了笑,感谢我们,爬上了他家的台阶,然后在门后消失了。“真是个爱人,”当我们退出车道时,我说。显然没有成年人在家,尽管马丁从未透露过我们开车离开前门后面门后面隐藏的真相。
随着一周的进行,马丁确实确实与杰伊和我联系。他发短信并打电话给几次,问我们是否可以将他带回青年小组。另一个星期来了,去了,维克多终于从家里出来,也希望我们把他带到我们的青年团体。我们不仅要完全崇拜他们,而且要意识到某些事情在他们家中并不是很正确的事情。但是,它们是明亮,口语,有礼貌和异常举止的。我们可以看到悲伤的阴影,甚至偶然地在他们身上,尤其是在维克多。

Weeks turned to months, and the boys became regulars at church on Sunday nights. They both also never hesitated to call us several times a week, asking for support with their school work. They didn’t have a printer to use, and they never seemed to have adequate school supplies. They both were enrolled in Honors, AIG, and AP classes and programs and needed extra assistance they seemed to be lacking. Again, they didn’t exactly complain, but it was obvious that there was a deficit of supervision, support, and most of all, love.
但是,这是我们社会中一个丑陋的小真理:数百万的孩子处于危机中,但我们的社会支持计划缺乏。作为一名老师,我每天都看到它。几乎没有什么可以做的。一个孩子必须处于极端情况,才能给予丝毫关注,而那时,这是为时已晚。所以,你可以做什么?报告您可以的东西,希望系统中的某人做正确的事,给予爱,并意识到存在的法律界限。作为专业人士,这是一个困难的职位。
As time crept along towards Christmas, things became worse for the twins. The absent mother actually returned, only to threaten them. The father, who was also primarily absent, made it clear he no longer wanted to be inconvenienced with the boys. And what made this worse was that these were the twins’ adoptive parents. They adopted them when they were almost 2 years old.
马丁和维克多被其亲生父母严重忽视。他们被州带走了。在22个月大时,马丁和维克多被提出收养。他们被放在一对夫妇的手中,他们在接下来的近14年中继续忽视和虐待他们。现在,我们处于十字路口。

I could share so many details here, but the story is long with some unbelievable twists and turns. Through a series of painful and unusual events, the adoptive father called my husband on December 7, 2012, which was about 4 months after meeting the twins. We had only met the father on one occasion, and he was rather reserved towards us. However, he and Jay had exchanged numbers, and it was this very day that things changed.
‘杰伊,你想要我的男孩吗?他们似乎喜欢您和您的妻子,我们不再想要他们了。’
'打扰一下?你在说什么?’杰伊几乎无法说出这些话,但父亲将他们重复回到杰伊。没错,他们放弃了双胞胎。经过短暂的交谈后,杰伊(Jay)在一个简单的答案中非常清楚地表明,我们想要他们。我们再也无法忍受,看着这些男孩的忽视和虐待的痛苦影响。因此,我直接开车去了他们的高中,并从社会工作者办公室接了他们。我要把“我的男孩”带回家。
他们有严格的指示要落在他们的房子里,以取回自己的财产,然后将其物品丢弃,然后将钥匙留在后面。我们花了一个周末购买家具,基本衣服和厕所需求;欢乐看电影;装饰圣诞树;只是一起寻找美丽的家庭时光。他们谦虚,感恩,欣赏和友善。但是他们也被打破了。特别是维克多。
'我不明白。我做了什么?她为什么不爱我?没有答案。杰伊和我只是听了,试图温柔地支持这种遗弃和恐惧的强烈情绪。几天后,社会服务部到达我们的家门口,大胆地宣布,他们将取回双胞胎并将它们放在小组的家中,直到他们可以“老化”系统为止。
‘Wait a minute, what?’ I held my tongue and refrained saying anything that could damage our chances. We were then told that since we were not in the foster system, we were inadequately prepared to accept these boys into our lives. We hired a lawyer to try to protect Martin and Victor, and she shared with us a very fair way to have the boys’ care transferred over to us from the parents.
在经历了很多心痛,恐惧和焦虑之后,一名地方法官听到了我们的案件,审查了文书工作,并将马丁和维克多置于我们的护理中……所有这些都在2012年12月31日,在收到它们后仅几周,距离威胁只有几天的时间of permanently losing them into ‘the system.’ And best part? December 31st was their 16th birthday. It was as if God had given them the birthday gift of arriving in their final home.

哦,所有这些的细节以及2013年的一切!如此幸福和满足!通过爱,结合甚至一些疗法,双胞胎取得了长足的进步。安德鲁(Andrew)很高兴有两个大兄弟,双胞胎兴高采烈地填补了这些鞋子。他们从未钓鱼,所以我们去了!他们从未去过海滩,所以我们去了!他们从未去过山,所以我们去了!而且,我们甚至很高兴一起为我们的第一个感恩节而感到高兴!


从我们的巡游返回十一天后,在庆祝我们的第一个“快乐陷阱一天”仅4天后,维克多从他的一场高中摔跤比赛中回家。和往常一样,他赢了。他是训练有素,最成功的摔跤手之一,他只是一个大三学生。‘妈妈,我感觉不太好。这些东西在我的脖子上困扰着我。’我感到他的脖子找到了几个扩大的淋巴结。维克多是健康的缩影,但似乎很频繁地因鼻窦感染而困扰。第二天,我带他去看医生。她进行了一些血液检查并完成了快速检查,但除了耳膜后面的一小段液体建筑之外,什么也没发现。她写了一份抗生素的处方,以保护他的耳朵免受即将来临的感染的侵害,我们回家了。

我必须在这里停下来。不仅在这一刻之前的故事如此详细,而且事件的长度仅比这个晚上显着增加。维克多(Victor)的病情在周末大幅下降,到了下一个星期二晚上,我们在Wake Med的儿科部门与他住院。

“维克多,”护士赶到我们的急诊室时说道。‘先生,今天晚上与我们一起住在这里。我们正在承认你。’她到达时消失了。当我拉出手机时,我咬住嘴唇,准备好自己打电话给家人。我们被一个多小时的车程分开了,我们的一些圣诞节庆祝活动开始了。
'妈妈?所以,嗯……好吧,如果我被录取,那意味着我必须呆在这里,对吗?
“是的,维克多,这是正确的,”我轻轻地回答。
‘所以,如果我必须呆在这里,那就嗯……。”他的声音落后了。
‘Then that means I’m staying here too.’ And with that answer, I heard Victor give a sigh of relief as his tense body relaxed into his hospital bed. It was at that moment I was reminded of the years of disappointment, fear, and abandonment these two boys had endured. No more. No. Those days were over.
随着多次测试的运行,日子过去了。最后,医生下令进行大脑MRI。这是一个清脆而美丽的十二月早晨,就在圣诞节前几天。在维克多(Victor)从测试中返回的瞬间,三名医生都穿着漂白的白色外套,庄严地送入房间,一对一。
You could cut the tension in the air with a knife. I knew whatever the news was, it wasn’t good. Victor’s nurse quietly came in and stood by his bed, rubbing his shoulder. Jay was in the hard plastic chair that had been my bed for the past few nights. I stood, and walked to the foot of Victor’s bed, my back facing him.
一名医生打开了室内计算机。‘您可以在这里看到这是Victor的大脑。这是他的脑干……’我觉得我的内心在听到“脑干”,“ 3厘米”,“肿瘤”,“附着”,“转移”,“神经外科医生”和“立即”时发麻。
My heart began to race, and all I could hear was its rhythmic beat inside my ears. I couldn’t look back. I didn’t want to see Victor’s face. How in the world could a child who had been abused his whole life receive this type of a sentence? How in the world would Jay and I begin to pick up these pieces for Victor? For his twin? For our family? I slightly turned my head back, only to see my sweet and strong Victor sitting up in his bed, almost frozen, tears welling in his eyes while one tear leaked down his left cheek.

“我想要马丁,”他悄悄地小声说。我朝他的床头走去,抚摸他的手,并以我需要打电话的借口从房间里赦免自己。我溜进一个私人走廊,沉入墙上。我打了第一个电话,然后是第二个电话,然后是第三个电话。我不得不打电话给高中,找到一种告诉马丁的方法。他的兄弟需要他。
这个故事只会在这里延长。我们在医院与肿瘤清除的影响作斗争了16个月。诊断为毛囊星形胶质细胞瘤后,我们被送往其他三所医院,其中最终距离我们家三个小时。我的丈夫失去了工作,而维克多(Victor)失去了视线,吞咽的能力,能够自行呼吸,说话或自由移动的能力。


在住院的最后几个月中,医生试图强迫杰伊和我派维克多去一个距离我们家近5个小时的急性护理设施。我们为他的权利而战,并将他带回家。我们不会抛弃这个非常需要我们的孩子。自从旅途开始以来,我的丈夫承担了一名全职护士的职责(我们很感激每周提供一些宝贵的护理支持),而我在工作多个工作以保持我们的家人继续前进。

2015年,维克多(Victor)仍然与他的双胞胎马丁(Martin)一起从高中毕业。尽管有极端的身体局限性,Victor还是用左手来阐明自己的想法,并从床上完成了高年级,并从AP毕业,并以4.5 GPA的身份毕业。


这个故事仍在继续,许多细节被隐藏在痛苦的岁月中,但我们仍然是一个家庭。维克多(Victor)在整个创伤中忍受了大约40次手术和/或程序,这些年来,这些事件已经揭露了。但是,当我们讲述马丁和维克多如何来到我们身边的故事时,我们仍然以泪水在我们心中的极端喜悦中哭泣。毕竟,真爱永远持久。”

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